–By Robert Cre8ive–
by: Robert Cre8ive
First and foremost thanks to Crowned ReRe for giving me the opportunity to share two quick points I found helped me on my journey in finding balance in my mental health.
It’s my hope that by sharing some things that I use on my day to day it may help someone else who may be in a similar spot.
This is obviously not the end all be all of advice and if you feel it doesn’t fit your needs its OK. But I would highly advise to take some time to find something that will work for you if needed. Because in today’s day and age it’s important to have a good hold of your mental space. So with all that being said let’s jump in….
One of the frequently used phrases I heard often growing up was “You are what you eat” Mostly used by health gurus on TV to dissuade people from having the extra bowl of ice cream and instead maybe try a salad. Now without trying to sound all fake deep I found that taking this phrase and tweaking it by removing eat and using consume instead I could apply this to simply say you are what you take in. Thinking this way I started becoming more self aware of what I take in on social media, the music I listen to or shows watched, even as far as the conversations I engage in daily.
I found I often would pick up the traits of these interactions rather it was phrases used or reactions to something. So instead of watching the most current clip of ratchet from a reality show for hours (ice cream). I try to take time watching something encouraging about self motivation or growth (salad). Now of course I still like my drama like what’s the latest twitter gossip and finding who we canceling today. But I find that starting my day with encouragement and motivation usually helps me stay in a good place when I get to work and my co-worker is already with nonsense. Or that person in that raggedy car cut me off in traffic.
Kinda like when they say drink water when you wake up, for me pouring in the good first thing helps kick start my mental for the better. Which leads into the second thing I found beneficial to get in a better space.
To thine ownself be true yea I pulled Shakespeare out but if it works it works. But really all i’m trying to convey is take some time to know yourself and be honest. One of the largest hurdles I had to overcome in this journey was learning myself. More importantly, looking at what gave strong emotional responses for good or bad and then finding ways to either reduce or incorporate more of those things in my daily or weekly routine.
For example grabbing a milkshake on a Friday after getting off work for me gave a feeling of jubilation. I made it through the work week and may have achieved deadlines I had or just made it in on time everyday. It doesn’t have to be a big thing, just something that gives me a feeling of achievement. On the opposite end does that mean I chastise myself if I don’t do these things? No not at all I just have to remind myself that failure will happen as well as disappointment but it doesn’t mean the sky is falling sometimes it just is what it is.
Now to take it step further I had to ask myself why was failure so upsetting for me? Maybe being embarrassed by friends or scolded by my mother when younger could have programmed this sort of response of letting people down or not being good enough because I failed at something. Once I could find the root it was easier to correct myself when having these feelings because I know now this is far from the truth.
On a final note I want to share a quote I found recently from Buddha that says “A disciplined mind brings happiness”.
“A disciplined mind brings happiness”.Buddha
In the end all I want is to be a great leader, father, husband, friend and contributor that is my happiness. But I can’t do any of that without having a grip on my mental space. Is it going to be rough at times yes but it can be achieved. It’s enough room for greatness for everyone I just have to continue to work on it day by day.
Stay dope and be blessed.
Robert The Cre8ive
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